Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for Coaches
Join this workshop specifically for people in the ‘helping’ business (coaches, counsellors, therapists, facilitators, mediators) to learn how this powerful process can help you and your clients.
(You’ll find it invaluable at home, too!)
Date: 16th – 17th February 2018
Where: Guildford or Hindhead, Surrey (depending on numbers)
Times: 10.00 – 17.00
NVC is a powerful process that supports a way of being and showing up in the world that:
- encourages self-awareness and responsibility taking
- promotes understanding and compassion
- builds connection
- helps people get ‘unstuck’
- encourages honest, authentic and respectful dialogue
- heals hurt and supports reconciliation
- gives a voice to everyone involved in a situation
- looks for ways forward that take each person into account.
How will it help you?
The process enables you to:
- be more self-aware of your state, moment by moment
- be sensitive to the emotional state of individual clients and/or teams
- stay grounded and present to whatever is emerging in your relationship with your client(s) and to be courageous in that relationship
- help clients develop congruency between their needs and their strategies for meeting their needs
- encourage clients to take responsibility for their own part in the situations facing them
- educate clients about the patterns of communication that might be contributing to their situations in which they feel stuck, and about the choices that are available to them
- turn emotionally charged and conflictual situations into a safe environment in which people in conflict are willing to exrpress themselves vulnerably and to hear each other without blame..
Elements of the process
At the heart of the NVC process are four key elements:
- Observations (distinguishing between what was actually said or done and how our interpretations/evaluations/judgments about it that colour our reactions)
- Feelings (generated by the meaning given to what is observed)
- Needs (the universal, life-serving energies that our feelings alert us to)
- Requests (asking others to support us in getting our needs met, whilst at the same time being willing to hear a ‘no’).
Why it’s so powerful
The power of the process comes from incorporating these elements into our thoughts, words and deeds, together with a mindset that keeps us focused on:
- approaching others, even those we are in conflict with, with an intention to connect by seeking to understand their needs and values
- keeping attention on what is currently alive in one another, rather than endlessly rehearsing the past
- taking responsibility for our own state and our feelings
- distinguishing between needs and strategies for meeting those needs
- our inter-dependence and awareness of everyone’s needs
- seeking ways forward that everyone concerned can live with.
Whilst each individual aspect of NVC might be apparent in other, different, approaches, it’s the synergistic combination of all the aspects that give NVC its unique power.
When we integrate NVC into our way of being and embed the conceptual understanding of NVC into what we think, do and say , moment by moment, the results can be beautiful to experience.
About the workshop
The 2-day workshop will give you:
- insights into the ethos and principles underlying NVC
- an understanding of the fundamental elements of the process
- practice in applying them in situations that are real
- a chance to explore the implications of NVC for your coaching practice.
I ask £220.00 for the two days, on the assumption that you will be able to set it against your tax liabilities (and £190 if you can’t).